COURSTEY MIRROR MUMBAI JUNE 2

ASK THE SEXPERT
DR MAHINDER WATSA

1 My boyfriend is addicted to role-playing. One day I have to pretend that I’m a prostitute and hit him with a whip, the next I have to be a docile wife. I want our sex life to be exciting as well but this is too much pressure and we both are running out of creative ideas. How do I make him understand that we can’t go on like this and that we need to be okay with regular sex too?

It is well known that some males usually require someone to beat them physically or need to beat someone to get sexually excited. Unfortunately such desires cannot be replaced by the usual foreplay. Please ensure that you are not in any position which you cannot easily get out of.

2 I’m not satisfied with my girlfriend’s kissing skills. In fact, I end up feeling turned off rather than turned on. How can I tell her this in such a way that she does not get mad at me? And, is there any way I can help her to get better at kissing? I really like her but this has become a big problem.

Have you asked her about your kissing skills? You could buy several magazines or search online videos and share their skills with her.

3 I’m a regular reader of your column. You have sometimes said that a person should only watch porn in a limited manner. I was confused by this advice. Why should a person limit the amount of porn he or she watches Surely it is harmless. Besides I enjoy masturbating to porn and I learn something too.

Watching porn continuously may make you dependent and when you marry, you may not get pleasure from your real partner. Sexologists are seeing more and more cases of disturbed marriages because of the habit you have developed