COURSTEY MIRROR MUMBAI

ASK THE SEXPERT
DR MAHINDER WATSA

1 I am a 19-year-old man.

Last year, on my birthday, a couple who resides in my neighbourhood, with whom I am very friendly, had invited me over. When I got there, Uncle was not around and Aunty got me sexually aroused by appearing in only her bra and panty. We had sexual intercourse twice successively — it was my first time. It was the best birthday gift and the best day of my life. Uncle and Aunty relocated two months after this. Before that, I tried to have sex with Aunty again, but she refused. Recently, I spotted them at the mall with a newborn. They were married for five years but didn’t have a child, but now, after that encounter, they have one. So, I think it is my child. How can I ascertain this? I would like to be close to my son.

I would strongly suggest that you bring the activity to a stop. It is difficult to identify the paternity of the baby. And, your interfering further will only complicate matters for you and them. Think of this as an experience and move on.

2 I am 23 years old. I was circumcised two-and-a-half months ago, and have developed a lump on my penis. It doesn’t hurt. Should I consult a doctor?

Ideally, you should consult the surgeon who did your operation. He will identify whether you have any problem.